True masculinity doesn't dwell in the purchase of muscle cars, the keeping of a mistress, or a paycheck. Even though we know this, we buy the lie that real men don't cry. They play sports - tough sports. They have jobs - important jobs. We joke about the dim-wittedness of the average American father figure (Homer Simpson, anyone?) We encourage men to be sexual and aggressive, andif they are not, we dismiss them as weak or effeminate.